“Parenting is no joke.”
We hear it all the time. We internalize it before we even have kids, maybe even when we are kids ourselves. With this message so deeply ingrained in us, it’s no wonder we struggle as parents!
Have you ever stopped to think about what it would look like if parenting were easy?
Would it mean smoother mornings, fewer arguments, a more peaceful home?
Take a moment to get really clear on your vision. Write it down if you have to. What would it look like if parenting was easy? And then, what would it take to get you there?
Would you drop the rope a little more often? Set clear, firm boundaries and do it kindly? Find a community of parents who share your vision so you don’t feel quite so alone?
There are so many possibilities. Regardless of where you are and where you are going, thinking about how hard parenting is only makes it feel harder. Being told that parenting is just hard by well meaning friends not only makes it feel harder, it’s kind of dismissive. It doesn’t serve you. Even if things legitimately are really, really hard. Especially if things are really, really hard!
But how do you step out of that line of thinking? Trying to think positive can be too much of a leap and can end up being just as detrimental as staying stuck in thinking about how hard parent life is. You’ve got to find something that’s more neutral than “this is hard,” but is also still believable. I’ve found, “Parenting shows me where I need to grow” to be helpful. Shifting the focus onto your own abilities with a thought like, “I can do hard things,” can be helpful, too.
What’s working for you? Are you able to lift yourself up when you feel challenged, or do you get stuck in thinking about how hard it is to be a parent?
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